Monday, 26 March 2012

Getting acquainted with old friends

Hi guys,
Its been a long time since I was here , doing what I am doing , this time around no one asked me why I am not writing or some did but not as frequently anyway.....

Well here is something that came to mind, have you ever had the feeling or sensed that you know a person well , really well for a considerable length of time? and once you got comfortable with that you started getting thoughts doubting that very feeling?

I have , for instance I have friend , a childhood friend , nothing to do with my profession just an old friend , haven't been in touch for sometime a very long time and wondered what is going on in his life ? thought : 'call him today' , did not, some time passes, again " call and see whats happening there" , never happened, this sequence happens many times over, suddenly I get a message from a common friend,who lives in another city, saying the guy has  had an accident and is in some distress, gulp, I struggle to find a way to contact him as I don't have his address , have two or three numbers listed under his name in my phone list. I do get in touch ultimately, fearing what the reactions are going to be having known that he is in hospital ,undergone major surgery , this could get really nasty for me and its well deserved, I start by speaking to him on the phone and he is as cheerful as ever and as I remember him , I then muster and some strange courage and real misplaced confidence and say , " what the hell is wrong with you man ? I don't hear from you all these years and when I do , its news like this...." he says " Sorry for that " and continues in his own very friendly way , the way I remember .....

A couple, very near dear friends  , with whom we could share news good or bad and maybe even gossip about a few friends, common ones,  good friends period.
 They had issues as it happens for almost everybody , we tried to help , in a jiffy we were made aware of our places in their lives , we practically are neighbours , we never meet , never have calls returned , we never receive any calls, come to think of it they never really called us , we called them .......

A friend , who I thought was really different and kept my distance , he did too , we were friends nonetheless, he has had some experiences that has changed his outlook towards me and his change has been a very warm and welcoming , I have  come to know him as a reliable and loyal friend........

A friend , who I had a lot of fun with being in the same profession, who I thought the world of , who I thought was a very close and good friend , a fight broke between some common friends and I found myself on the other end of the stick , we have not been ' friends' since......

all these are really, really old friends...........

point being made , do we know our friends ? are they friends or acquaintances?  well experiences teach us what we need to do and how we need to behave , at least socially ,
having said this.......here is a question that comes to mind , will I be able to make a new friend?........
Just thoughts......................      

1 comment:

  1. Khatri ranjya As always you surprise us with the other side of the tough and no nonsense display. My view is Life is never static and we are constantly moving from One Phase to another. However what i have really liked about the 'Friends' that i have or have been with ever they meet with a smile. No more no less that is it and it is enough. Your writing again brought a smile

    Cheers, Nishith

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